The new controversy which is really big deal now in my town. Everyone is talking about it. So, I decided to write about it.
There's a always good side and bad side of everything. As well there's pro and cons of everythings.It depends on visual perception and how he/she thinks. A Gift for Muslim Couples controvery started when a old man (Ahmad) sold a book from India in Canada which was written by (Religious Scholar) Maulvi Ashraf Ali Thanvi in 19th centuary who passed away in 1943. A Gift for Muslim Couples' book basically told Muslim couple especially man of the family how to treat with your wife. In that book there are some pages which tells how to deal with dishosnest wife or who doesn't listen to you and it gives the refrence of HOLY QURAN. I personally did some research and it took me forever to find that page of the book which said to beat. The book says to do this: To re-approach, to scold, to beat with stick or hand, to pull the ears, to utter harsh words, to physically detain, to apply financial restraints.
Ok then let me tell you, Maulvi Thanvi, the verse you quote from Quran (koran) was taken in completely a wrong way. Those verses were for women who cheats on their husbands or having a sexual relationship with other man.There's nothing in Quran which tells you how to beat yourwife and beat your wife when they don't listen to you. Here are some quotes from Quran which is taken wrong by extremist people and they think they owned their wives. If you think you can treat however you want then you have to read this.
"According to Quran the relationship between the husband and wife should be based on mutual love and kindness. Allah says: "And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." (Quran: Ar-Rum 21)
The Holy Quran urges husbands to treat their wives with kindness. (In the event of a family dispute, Quran exhorts the husband to treat his wife kindly and not to overlook her positive aspects). Allah Almighty says: “Live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.” (Quran: An-Nisaa 19)
And the Surah (Verse) they take it in wrong sentence is this:
"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more strength than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband's absence what Allah would have them to guard. As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance)acquainted with all things." (Quran: An-Nisaa 34)
In Quran in Surah Al- Nisa it is first stated admonish them and try to urge or explain or warned them next if they don't listen to you. Second statement is to refuse to share beds mean in Islamic divorce them and make them survive with yourself and at last beat but lightly. But, what do you think? after divorcing can you beat some one? NO! that's why it is stated in the last. Everything which is in QURAN makes completely sense and lots of people takes some bite which ever the piece they like and use it in their own way.
Beating wife or treating them badly in Islam is considers very bad. In any religion they don't allow to beat wife even in Western countries and after selling a book in western country made every one looked down upon. So, this is the controversy which have been revolving around now-a-days. I want to end my blog by saying that there is nothing in Quran to beat wives and who ever think that he is extremist. Well, it doesn't happen a lot but it varies in different cultures like in India, Afghanistan and Pakistan or other South Asian countries where women are not empowered alot.