Still a lot of lessons to learn.

Knock, Knock, Knockkk*
 I jumped out of my bed, rubbed my eye in order to clean them and opened the door. It was my host dad waiting for me to opened the door. I greeted him and he did to. He asked me if I am ready to go for the picnic.
Dad, what time is it?
''It's 6:45 and you are not ready. Get ready in 5 minutes or else we are going to leave you at home''he replied in a resentful manner.
Well, I picked up my backpack and went upstairs to my bathroom to wash my face and changed my clothes. After 10 minutes I was sitting at the back seat in the car. Moving on we started our trip to Clear water lake. I didn't dare to say anything because I was still sleepy a little bit from the night before it. I stayed up late that night. At 7 a.m. my alarm started ringing. My host mother looked at me. I told her it's my alarm so I could be up for today. She asked me why did I put for 7 a.m. I told her that you told me we will be leaving at 8. That's why I put that. She denied it and told me that we said that we will be leaving between 6 to 7 a.m.
 Well, it's not a big surprise. Sometimes she changes her mind like changing clothes. I didn't want to argue with her. They changed their plan because they wanted to eat out. I apologized her still after knowing that I was right.
 We went to sonic, I had French toast and lemonade for breakfast.
 Then they drive to their friend's house to pick them up, they were going with us too. At 7:45 we arrived there and found out that they just got up and we had to wait for them about 1:30 minutes there.
Every minute was thorn in my side. Those 90 minutes were rational to the hunger pain of  last minutes of a fast.

At last we finally moved towards our designation. This waiting procedure was horrible to me and now I know when you wait for someone on something how it feels like. I have gotten a lot better after living in United States where people stress more on time where as if I compare it to my family in Pakistan, I think that it is our family tradition not being on time. The journey continues. I pray to Allah that make me a good person in future with all the good deeds. (Ammeen)

Feeling of Boredom

I have nothing to say but I am pretty much bored and I have no idea what to do. So, I decided to write a poem. This is my fourth poem I have ever written and I am not so good in writing them. But I tried to write one.

I am just sitting here
Staring the windows of my laptop


My friends are having fun
I am stalking each one


My parents are enjoying the weather
Where as I am shunning the sun


I'm looking for a movie
But none of them are groovy


I'm thinking to listen to a song
besides my head is not getting along


I am feeling alone
I sense this mood is overblown


It's getting dark outside
But I think it's nationwide


There's nothing to be surprised
because I live at the west side


I have finally realized that I am bored
All these emotions are floored


This poem has stored
But please don't abhor

Blind.

 The new controversy which is really big deal now in my town. Everyone is talking about it. So, I decided to write about it.

There's a always good side and bad side of everything. As well there's pro and cons of everythings.It depends on visual perception and how he/she thinks. A Gift for Muslim Couples controvery started when a old man (Ahmad) sold a book from India in Canada which was written by (Religious Scholar) Maulvi Ashraf Ali Thanvi in 19th centuary who passed away in 1943. A Gift for Muslim Couples'  book basically told Muslim couple especially man of the family how to treat with your wife.  In that book there are some pages which tells how to deal with dishosnest wife or who doesn't listen to you and it gives the refrence of  HOLY QURAN. I personally did some research and it took me forever to find that page of the book which said to beat. The book says to do this: To re-approach, to scold, to beat with stick or hand, to pull the ears, to utter harsh words, to physically detain, to apply financial restraints. 

Ok then let me tell you, Maulvi Thanvi,  the verse you quote from Quran (koran) was taken in completely a wrong way. Those verses were for women who cheats on their husbands or having a sexual relationship with other man.There's nothing in Quran which tells you how to beat yourwife and beat your wife when they don't listen to you. Here are some quotes from Quran which is taken wrong by extremist people and they think they owned their wives. If you think you can treat however you want then you have to read this. 

 "According to Quran the relationship between the husband and wife should be based on mutual love and kindness. Allah says: "And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." (Quran: Ar-Rum 21) 

 The Holy Quran urges husbands to treat their wives with kindness. (In the event of a family dispute, Quran exhorts the husband to treat his wife kindly and not to overlook her positive aspects). Allah Almighty says: “Live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.” (Quran: An-Nisaa 19) 

And the Surah (Verse) they take it in wrong sentence is this:

 "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more strength than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband's absence what Allah would have them to guard. As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance)acquainted with all things." (Quran: An-Nisaa 34)

In Quran in Surah Al- Nisa it is first stated admonish them and try to urge or explain or warned them next if they don't listen to you. Second statement is to refuse to share beds mean in Islamic divorce them and make them survive with yourself and at last beat but lightly. But, what do you think? after divorcing can you beat some one? NO! that's why it is stated in the last. Everything which is in QURAN makes completely sense and lots of people takes some bite which ever the piece they like and use it in their own way.

Beating wife or treating them badly in Islam is considers very bad. In any religion they don't allow to beat wife even in Western countries and after selling a book in western country made every one looked down upon. So, this is the controversy which have been revolving around  now-a-days. I want to end my blog by saying that there is nothing in Quran to beat wives and who ever think that he is extremist. Well, it doesn't happen a lot but it varies in different cultures like in India, Afghanistan and Pakistan or other South Asian countries where women are not empowered alot.

And I learned something from a seven years old boy!

As it is one of important message of Hazrat Muhammad(P.B.U.H) that '' Baroon ki Ezat and chooton ka ehtaram karo.''
''Obey and respect the elders and adore and respect the yougers''

This quote just came into my mind when I was playing with 7 years old Trevor; my host nephew. We were looking for the tree house when we found the stacks of hay bundles. They were on top on each other and together the were making the mountain of Hay bales. Suddenly travor climp on it and said come up. First I was not sure if it will be secure to play on it. I wanted to finish the game and take Travor home before some one gets hurt. And I said Travor come down now! I did not expect any response from him except him to come down but, he gave me a look and replied in a very cute way, ''make me.'' and then continued, '' If you will make me then I will come down.'' Out of blue I asked him, '' How can I make you?'' He taught me how to make a child. He said, '' say manner words and please.''
I continued as what he told me to do, ''Tavor would you please come down?'' and he came down and I put my hand on his head and said, ''Good boy.'' He stopped and said say THANK- YOU now. I couldn't take him to home until I would say all the nice words to him.
I had learnt when I was coming to America that always says three magic words: Thank you, Please, sorry or excuse me and I have been practicing also but I didn't know that I have to say to small kids also.
I would say Travor taught me some good lesson. After this I thought about my younger sisters; now I realised what used to make my siblings fight with me. If I would say some appreciation words; there would not be the same as today. And it will not be false if I say I didn't fight with any of my sisters and I miss them alot.
Today I learnt the forgotten message of Holy Prophet(P.B.U.H) and what my parents taught me again and again.
I hope when I will get back home; I will be a positvely changed sister for them. I am positive =D

My First Blog.

Hey,
 I am so nervous and excited too. I want to improve my reading and writing skills and habits. Literally, I do not know what to write or how to start blog but, hopefully I will learn; when I will get started. Everything is possible with a hope and will; then, just lets go with them.
 I also want to save my memories about my exchange year in America. So, this is the best option.

WELL BEST OF LUCK RIDZY :)